Five defining moments for a man

Thoughts have compiled this list to include five of the most crucial moments that every man will pass through in some part of their lives.

1) marriage - there will come a time when u find that soul mate of yours, some one you can talk with for hours, together becoming an item, sharing intimately, having fights, learning to live together and ultimately learning to compromise with one another's weaknesses. One may like watching WWE, the other might not... Its the moment when you discover what brand of sugar and spice she's made of that will determine the future of your relationship.

I dont plan to get hitched soon but who knows.. i have other ideas in mind, its all about priorities babe. I think ill write about things to do before reaching thirty in the near future.. Friends are getting married and having kids, time passes by so fast, you can hardly breathe thinking of the things happening around you..

Before popping the question, you would be thinking of that dream honeymoon, what type of wedding, cheese or chocolate cake, what concept, invite that ex (es) of yours? the cost involved and all. Before all that, most importantly, is she the one u want to spend the rest of your life with? make out and have kids with? I seriously think marrying a bestfriend cant be a bad thing at all..


2) Becoming a father - When was the last time u had to babysit your small cousins or nephews or anyone's child?

All i had in memory was looking after my baby sis alone, i remembered one day she was crying non-stop. I had to scan her for 'symptoms' - soiled pampers ok, milk check, rash attack check, insect attack nil... i was confused, no idea whatsoever of the source of her displeasure. Then my mom arrived home, and she stopped crying. True enough, A mother's touch! *sigh* thanks mom *hugs*

I've been told of the burdens of parenthood all the time, my mom used to tell me how badass i was when i was a baby. I would cry all night long and when i was in kindi, i would punch other kids for fun and would run at teachers trying to get hold of me..hehe..

I know Juno looks awfully inspiring but hey i dont think its as awfully straight-forward business as that.. When its hard to be yourself its not to be someone else. Realize the need to be good examples to our kids. Its your turn to be the head of the household now.


3) First defeat - business or personal, every man will experience the taste of defeat. The higher you are, the harder your drop will be. Its how you deal with your adult defeats - those that will cut deep into your ego (divorces, estrangement etc) - that will determine your growing up as a man.

As mentioned in 'the art of war', "...when your weapons are dulled, your ardor damped, your strength exhausted and your treasure spent, then no man, however wise, will be able to avert the consequences that must ensue.."

Learn from D.beckham when he missed that one England freekick or that Mariah Carey formula e=mc2.. Believe that what doesnt kills you will make you stronger. If u had to go down, make sure you go down like a man. Go on, watch 300 again and watch those awesome gays with six packs.

My inspiration will always be Man United after that munich trauma. Public attention and concern was phenomenal. To lose one of the best united eleven at that time would be more than just migraine, but United went on to produce a squad, which included the likes of Robson, Best and Charlton. Reds! Born and Bred!


4) Becoming an orphan - When was the last time you asked mom to iron your clothes or dad to pay the bills for your everything? No more free foods. Its a life cycle, from a child becoming an elder, its a physical, psychological to spiritual transformation.. In a full life span, everyone will get to experience it it in mid-life.. I am already missing my late grandfather.

I still depend much on my parents for food, advice and support. I dont have my own car, and I am not keen on showing off my parents' car either. Definitely, we need to cherish eveything before its gone. My mom arranges my stuffs once in a while, i do realize that i can get messy at times. I do care about organization but so much has happened lately that i cant help but get disorganized.

Most will refrain to even think about it, but come on, how long do you think you can keep depending on someone to do your everything? As much as God decides everything, death is a reality, a fact of fate. Think of your own future plot of land, house later, start smoking only when you can pay for it using you own money and stop hustling around with that cool car of yours-parents. Pray.. getting a good ground in spirituality gives us strength to carry on. Build good karma, leave a coin in that vending-machine, just like in final fantasy online, use a potion to revive the dead, do unto others.. and others might return the favour when its your body lying dead on the ground.


5) Realizing you dont know everything - You are not stupid, you are not god either... Growing up is a tough process, i dont know if its much more fun planned or better unplanned. What i do know, its better to accept our weaknesses and make good use of our strengthes.

Nationalism. Democracy is the best tool against corruption, its more iron than iron-fist..hehe.. Our people should get rid of the "we have just arrived attitude". It takes more to suceed this days. I cant comment much, as i would comment on others who do such to study hard and become ministers, so as to be able to make the said differences and desired changes. Im babbling here..hehe..

We grow with experience, its good to try new things. Go... go get that girl's number now. Better late than never. Life is too short to wait for changes, create your own paths and determine your own destiny. Its you who like to eat those mash-potatoes not her so dont beat around the bush..


How do i live-LeAnn Rimes